Become that person that sits alone in a cafe and just looks cool
Hi and welcome to The Solo Friendly Blog. I’m glad to have you here.
The goal for this blog is to help you become confident doing things on your own. Things like loneliness, shyness or social anxiety can keep us from enjoying life fully – especially when we’re in our twenties.
- Don’t have any friends and feel lonely.
- Have friends that don’t have time for you.
- Feel awkward doing things by yourself.
- Only do things that your friends suggest.
- Just want to spend some time alone.
- Or simply wish to become that cool person who sits alone in a cafe without feeling awkward, then, this is the right place for you.
How The Solo Friendly Blog was created?
Just like any good idea, this one was a classic shower thought. At the time I was working in a corporate office, and my work routine was the same every day – go to work, have a lunch break with my colleagues, work again and after I’m done I would either go home or go out if some of my friends felt like going out.
The lunch breaks were really tiring because I was:
- Always eating at places where my colleagues were eating
- Spending that time sitting (like I wasn’t sitting enough at work)
- Never spending my break as I wanted
One day I decided to spend my lunch break alone and went for a walk. It felt weird at the beginning because I thought that my colleagues would think of me as an outsider.
But what felt weird at the beginning turned out to be an eye opener because I realized that my whole like I was only doing what the rest of my friends and colleagues were doing.
I never got to do things I was into because I was afraid to do them on my own and separate myself from the crowd. I even skipped my exams because I didn’t want to go alone to the university.
After that realization I decided to work on myself and become more independent. This journey and all the helpful things I learned in this process are in this blog.
The results so far are:
- Not being afraid to quit my job that I didn’t like
- Feeling better emotionally
- Anxieties are pretty under control
- Developing personal interest and talking about them with confidence
- Being in the right circle of people with whom I connect with
Relationships are important but so are you.
Everyone needs a friend and there is nothing like having someone with whom you can be yourself. But to come to this point you have to be honest and self-sufficient because if you’re not, you will attract the wrong people. This is why you want to focus on yourself first because looking desperately for friends or love can only do the opposite.
Because of my excessive reliance on other people, I was always in the wrong company of people.
What I learned is that:
- You have to be comfortable being alone
- Don’t look for friends or love just to feel complete
- One true friend means more than having a large social circle
- You cannot be lonely if you like the person you are alone with
“If you truly want to be respected by people you love, you must prove to them that you can survive without them.”- Michael Bassey Johnson
This is why the Solo Friendly Blog focuses on helping you to become confident to do things on your own because you don’t want to wait to have someone on your side to start living your life as you want it.
The blog will discuss:
- How to feel more confident
- Skills you need in daily life
- Coping with loneliness, anxiety, shyness and bad moods
- Start working on your dream career
“There is no dependence that can be sure but a dependence upon one’s self.” – John Gay
The goal is for you to become that cool person who sits alone in a cafe, reading a book, feeling comfortable and not weird at all.
The Solo Friendly Blog is also on Twitter, so make sure to visit and connect with like-minded people.
Here are some extra quotes on self-reliance and confidence from the Cool Dog.